Friday, August 19, 2011

References and Resources for Girls


Resources and Recommended Reading
Odd Girl Out, The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons

Girls, Bullying Behavior and Peer Relationships: The Double Edged Sword of Exclusion and Rejection by Barbara Leckie


Women’s’ Ways of Knowing by Belenky, Clinchy, Goldberg, and Tarule

The Girl Within by Emily Hancock

The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine

Parenting from the Inside Out by Siegel and Hartzell

Numerous websites for girls and parents
http://comminfo.rutgers.edu/professional-development/childlit/girllist.html

Reviving Ophelia by Mary Pipher


Little Girls Can be Mean by Michelle Anthony


The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to HighSchool--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle by Barbara Coloroso

Girl Wars: 12 Strategies That Will End Female Bullying by Cheryl Dellasega, Charisse Nixon

Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy by Rachel Simmons

Naomi Drew Bully-Free Classrooms  (2010)
 
Trudy Ludwig My Secret Bully about a girl's FRIEND who bullies her, and Confessions of a Former Bully

Short videos of actual bullying

Bullying makes me question who I am as a person
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDa9jTgRa0k

Why it's hard for teachers and principals to find out what's going on as the socially adept girl wins favor and bullies further
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4kh4r99ZkI&feature=related

Feeling worthless
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vk_k2pnMO9o&feature=related

Say what you don't like and exactly what you want as a victim or bystander, firmness not kindness stops the act of bullying
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fx_Cnga3iPU&feature=related

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

List of Questions to Interview Your Babysitter or Nanny


Requirements: ( depending on the age of your child)
Please be on time.
No television.
Do not let strangers hold her.
Please wash your hands before you pick up her.
Please wash your hands in the house frequently.
Do not let her near smoke or smokers.
Please do not wear perfume.
While she is napping please help around the house with cleaning, picking up, laundry, etc.
Please provide 48 hour notice if you cannot arrive on time.
Please contact us immediately if you are sick and cannot come to the house.
Do not come if you are sick.

Responsibilities:
Lots of love and care.
Play with her using her toys.
Speak to her.
Sing to her.
Laugh with her.
Help her walk.
Help her use eye hand coordination.
Attend local mom’s groups with her.

Typical day:
Describe your typical day.  All this is dependent upon the age of your child.  Below, an infants day is described.  
She is usually in three hour cycles; she wants milk every three hours or so.  She often takes a two hour nap in the morning and an hour nap in the afternoon.  Every day seems to be different.

7:00     wake and change diaper
7:00     milk
7:30     breakfast, ½ cup cereal, jar of vegetables/fruit
            change diaper
8:00     play
10:00   milk
10:00   nap
11:30   wake, change diaper
12:00   lunch, jar of fruit
12:30   play
1:00     milk, change diaper
3:00     nap
4:00     milk, change diaper, play
5:30     dinner, jar of vegetables/fruit, ½ cup of cereal
6:00     play, change diaper
7:00     milk, change into PJs
7:30     change diaper, sleep

If she has a little bump we rub her head and tell her it’s ok.  If she has a big bump then we pick her up, hug her, and give her the pacifier.

When I change her diaper I use the hair dryer to make sure she is fully dry so that she doesn’t get diaper rash.  The hair dryer should be six inches away and on low heat so that she does not get burned.

She can never be left alone unless she is in her crib.  The house is dangerous for her and not childproof.

She should not be left alone in her crib for more than ten minutes per day.

She should not be disciplined (no yelling, no hitting, no time outs).  She does not understand the word no.

We are trying to teach her sign language and are focusing on three words: milk, eat, and more.  Please use these signs.

Develop a plan for playing:
Physical development
                        Tummy time
                        Eye hand coordination
Music time
Character development
                        Eye contact
                        Interaction
Application and Interview:
Name
Address
Phone

Do you smoke
Do you live with someone who smokes
Do you own a gun
Would you take my daughter to a house that has a gun
Is the gun separate from the amunition
Is the gun in a locked cabinet
Who else has access tot he gun
Do you have CPR training
Do you have training or education in child care
Where was your last job
Why did you leave
Why are you looking for childcare work
What are your plans for the future
Would you be available for full time work
When
Do you have a resume
Do you have any health problems that might impact your job performance
Tell me about your childhood
What’s one of your favorite memories
How did you family handle problems
Do you have a valid drivers license                            number ____________________
Have you ever been convicted of a felony?
Would you submit to a background check
On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest) how would you rate yourself?
Ability to be a self starter
Ability to follow directions
Patience
Common Sense
Ability to make friends
Ease in social situations
Ability to speak up when something bothers you even if someone might get angry
Ability to relate to adults
Ability to relate to children
Sense of playfulness
Control of temper
Sense of humor
Honesty
Neatness
Maturity
What do you enjoy the most about working with children
What do you enjoy the least about working with children
Can you cook
What do babies like best about you
How do you handle discipline and setting limits
Do you think babies should be picked up when they cry
Do you think you can spoil a baby
What would you do if the baby did not stop crying
How would you soothe the baby for a nap
What type of activities would you think would be of interest for an 11 month old
What would a typical day be like?
Would you attend neighborhood moms groups
Would you help out around the house (make baby food) while the baby sleeps
How do you feel about taking care of a slightly ill baby
What do you think makes for a happy childhood
Have you ever had to handle an emergency
What happened
What do you do to relax
What do you like most about yourself
What would you like to improve
Who are your references
Would you invite friends over to the house
Do you have a boyfriend/husband – tell me about him, what does he do, where is he

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

List: How to teach your child a second language; even if you only speak one.

There are many things I want for my daughter and many things I can give her.  But I cannot give her a second language because I do not know one.  My grandparents spoke different languages but they were lost in the generations.

I started by hiring Spanish speaking babysitters, having her watch TV only in Spanish, and taking her to Spanish classes.  Eventually I took her to Mexico, Costa Rica, Peru, and Ecuador to study/speak/practice Spanish, months at a time.  This travel can be done inexpensively for $12 a day for room, food, and Spanish lessons; depending on the school.  I am proud to say, she is now bilingual and would like to study French.

These are generic suggestions that can be applied to any language for a learner at any age.  There are local references here but you will be able to find local schools which specialize in a variety of languages.

1. Hire a Spanish speaking nanny. Even if you don’t have young children.

2. Hire a tutor from SJSU or another local University at $10.00/$15.00 an hour for private lessons.  Talk!  Find someone who will encourage you to talk even though it's uncomfortable at first.

3. In Campbell, CA take your child to Susy Dorn’s musical Spanish classes.   http://www.letssinginspanish.com

4. Watch movies that you have already seen in English and watch them in Spanish by changing the language in setup.

5. Watch Spanish TV Novellas and Que Dice Gente (family fued).

6. Watch these shows in Spanish and turn on the Closed Captioning so you can watch, hear and read in Spanish all at the same time.

7. Watch cartoons on KQED in SAP, second audio channel. NBC is now offering many popular programs in SAP like Greys Anatomy.

8. Use Muzzy video tapes.

9. Identify a room, situation, time that you will always use the language. For example when you are in the car, after dinner, in the kitchen.  Stick to it.

10. Listen to AM talk radio in Spanish.

11. Join the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce.

12. Purchase your services (cleaning, gardening, personal trainer, haircuts, anything) in Spanish. Use the aisle with the cashier at the grocery store who speaks Spanish; go to Spanish restaurants.

13. 123TeachMe has online Spanish learning: grammar, vocabulary, verb conjugations, http://www.123teachme.com/

14. Get accents to use on your computer when typing Spanish. http://www.studyspanish.com/accents/typing.htm

16. Get the monthly Spanish magazine Speak and Learn Spanish also get the CD to listen & read. 

17. Buy Spanish language learning CDs and put them on your iPod. Library has free CDs and videos.

18. Tape your own voice speaking Spanish and listen to your voice over and over. Repeat conjugations.

19. Use paragraph translation tools such as Babelfish and Google sparingly. http://babelfish.altavista.com/

20. Purchase Babylon http://www.Babylon.com  or Wordmagic http://www.wordmagicsoft.com/ for installed translations; online access not necessary. Use sparingly.

21. Go to Berlitz. Put their transcript CDs on your iPod.  Expensive; recommended only if you are not on a budget.

22. Join Spanish online web based meetup groups for free.

23. Volunteer at schools that speak Spanish. Silicon Valley Schools: River Glen, Escuela Popular, Gardner, Sherman Oaks.

24. Purchase and use Rosetta Stone for Spanish.

25. Go to Mexico etc. for school during the summer. For a list of schools use http://www.123teachme.com/ Do not go in a group, do not go where there are lots of tourists, and stay w/ a family that does not speak English.  Do not speak or think in English while traveling.

26. Watch Destinos novella on your computer. A Spanish novella designed to teach Spanish. Slow speaking.

27. Purchase Franklin pocket translator/computer that gives definitions, congregates verbs, and has games. There is also another version that will speak the correct pronunciation.

28. Use Language Exchange for $30.00 http://www.sanfranciscolanguageexchange.com/

29. Join the CommonWealth Club and attend free classes. 

30. Personalize your Google web with:
Spanish word of the second
Spanish word of the day and lessons
Notes in Spanish and listen to PodCasts
Spanish words

31. check out this video 
 
32. Check out this article:
 
33. Never give up!